Hi Guys !
While cleaning my room and I found a notebook with a letter I wrote to a friend I broke up with. You never know if you're taking the right decision, but sometimes it doesn't work out anymore. What means that you have to let go.
While scrolling through many quotes I found two that say two completely opposite things, but I agree with both of them. One of them says : "Start ignoring people who threaten your joy. Literally, ignore them. Say nothing. Don't invite any parts of them into your space." The other one says : "If you leave someone at least tell them why, because what's more painful than being abandoned; is knowing you're not worth an explanation."
If you're not sure what to do, here are some points that might help you think.
You know it's time to say goodbye,
... when your friend is jealous of your success.
... when they tell your secrets to others.
... when they don't give you advice how to realise your dreams, but claim you can't do it.
... when they drop you like a hot potato, because they have found a boyfriend. Afterwards they apologise and do it all over again.
... when they make rude remarks about you.
... when they don't update you about important life changes.
... when they think you're going to steal their boyfriend.
... when they exchange you for new friends.
... when they are competitive.
... when they lie to you.
... when you're friends since a very long time so they take you for granted.
... when you have been for them through their difficult days, but once they're smoking hot, they don't need you anymore.
... when they talk with others in a way so you can't follow the conversation.
... when they get you in trouble, so they can achieve their goal.
... when they borrow money from you but don't feel like giving it back.
... when they're negative and you have to compliment them a lot, but it still doesn't reassure them.
... when they consider whatever you say as criticism.
... when they are over-possessive, what basically means that you can't talk to anyone else than them.
... when they call you when they need you, but when you need them, they're too busy.
... when they tell you secrets other people told them. It basically means they tell yours to others too.
... when they steal your boyfriend or crush or ex-boyfriend.
... when they control everything you did or will do.
... when they treat you in a bad way.
It's not like you should break up when something doesn't work out. If something is bothering you, you should absolutely talk it out. However, sometimes it doesn't work out, you're starting too feel like a bird in a too small cage and "you need to breathe".
Miss Cherry xo